Before Happiness

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1.  Choose the most valuable reality:
-recognize the existence of multiple realities by changing the details your brain chooses to focus on.
-See a greater range of realities by adding vantage points and seeing the world from a broader perspective.
-Select the most valuable reality that is both positive and true

2.  Mental maps
-identify and set better goals using markers of meaning
-chart more direct routes to goals
-map success routes before escape routes

3.  Success accelerants
-zoom in on the target, make it seem closer
-magnify the target size
-decrease energy required

4.  Noise canceling
-cancel negative or useless noise
-learn the 4 criteria of noise
-reduce overall volume of noise
-learn to cancel out noise of worry, fear, anxiety, & pessimism by 3 waves of positive energy
---wave 1--I will keep my worry in proportion to the likelihood of the event
---wave 2--I will not ruin 10,000 days to be right on a handful
---wave 3--I will not equate worrying with being loving or responsible

5.  Positive inception
-transfer positive reality to others
-create easy to replicate positive patterns & habits & help them spread
-take the power lead
-appeal to emotion & craft shared, meaningful narratives
-create renewable, sustainable source of positive energy that motivates & energizes those around you

p. 91-92
...fundamental attribution error, which is the human tendency to judge our own behavior based on context but to attribute others' behabior to their character...We need to give others the same benefit of the doubt that we give ourselves.  Not doing so is a counterproductive error that results from putting ourselves on the center of our maps.  But by consciously choosing to reorient our maps so that we try to explain others' behavior on the basis of context rather than character, we can slowly begin to expand the borders of our mental universe.

p. 175
1.  How often has this negative event happened to me in the past?
2.  How often does this negative event happen to people in my situation?

p. 189
The 10/5 Way involves just a few behavioral rules:  If a guest walks by a Ritz employee within 10 feet, the employee should make eye contact and smile.  If that guest walks by within five feet, the employee should say "Hello." 

p. 192
Our personalities may be distinct and unique, but our brains are highly interconnected; they are linked on a wireless mirror network.
...our thoughts and perceptions are what dictate our nonverbal actions